Learning to Let Go: Aka Deuces

It's been a long time coming but I've finally learned how to actually just let go, throw them deuces up (the girls at work taught me what that meant) when things don't work out. My specific situation refers to relationships, but this could go for many types of social situations like friendships, jobs, goals, etc.

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It's hard to admit defeat, especially when it involves something or someone that you really want. But the fact of the matter is that you can't force something to happen. Ever seen That's So Raven, the long canceled Disney show? Of course you have! And did you notice how every time she had this horrible vision that she worked so hard to prevent (or come true) her actions ended up creating the situation she tried to prevent in the first place!

The more you try to force a relationship (because maybe you sense that oh crap I don't think he's as interested I gotta work twice as hard to get him back) the worse things get? I've noticed it for a long time but seem to have had a hard time learning my lesson. What's prompted me to write this post (because I think I've touched on this a bit before) was that I finally had someone say, "wow, you just told me that you let things fizzle out with someone?! I never thought I'd hear that."

Yes people! Finally, when I felt that things just weren't going anywhere (and I've felt this many times before and never listened) I said ok. Instead of pushing myself onto someone, instead of completely burning bridges, I just faded into the mist quietly. I finally asked myself: Why try to text/hang out with someone who obviously doesn't want to hang out with me? I don't want to make an effort with someone who isn't making one with me, that's not what relationships should be about. So maybe this isn't quite such an epiphany, but it is for me! And I think that it could maybe apply for many other girls. Listening to stories, it seems like a lot of ladies sell themselves short.

If he isn't making, then deuces boy. There are plenty more (deserving) fish in the sea!