This realization of my lack of talent came at a grad school mixer we had with the business school last weekend. We figured why the heck not, let's just go and meet some new people. But as soon as I get there all that false bravado goes right out the window, and I'm left clustering around people that I know. In all fairness, half of why I think it's so difficult to meet people is because everyone seems to stick with their own groups of friends, making it difficult to for an outsider to join in. To be clear, I'm not just talking about chatting up dudes; I'm talking about meeting new people in general, guys and girls, gay or straight, old or young.
If you know me you're probably rolling your eyes; I know I don't come across as shy. Once conversations get going I can easily chat up and be witty with someone I've just met. It's just that initial conversation icebreaker that seems to do me in. I'm totally in awe of people who have the balls to just go up to someone random and say "Hi, I'm so-and-so. What's your name?" That's probably how my kick ass older cousin was able to get us into a frat party my second year and ended up making friends with everyone she met. There's not a shy or self-consciousness bone in that girl's body! And you know, I think ultimately people are impressed with/receptive to anyone who has the gall to take the initiative like that (unless they're a total douche). Hence the reason why my google search history contains "how to mingle."
P.S. The night of the business school mixer my friend gave me a mission: meet 2 new people. Funny enough, about 5 minutes after she said that (while I'm busy being a big baby about how there's no way I can do that) a guy ends up striking up a conversation and at one point introduces me to his classmate. Boom! Not my type but mission accomplished!
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| And here's what I get after googling "awkward" |
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